His Good Thing:
Straight to Your Mate
Pleasing God is the first step in living a happy, productive life. Psalm 37:4 tell us to delight ourselves in the Lord and he shall give us the desires of our heart. IF your desire is to be married, God will honor that request. However, before we can believe God for a husband, we need to evaluate our purpose.
Our purpose as single believers should be to please God. He should be our first love. In John 5:30 Jesus says “I can of mine own self do nothing: as I hear, I judge: and my judgment is just: because I seek not mine own will, but the will of the Father which hath sent me”. Jesus sought to seek God’s will for His life and he realized that he could not do it alone. Jesus lived His life according to God’s purpose and plan. If Jesus did it, then so would we. If is important that we find out what our purpose is in live, and leap full force into it. Taking care of God’s business will allow Him to take care of ours. Revelation 4:11 reads: Thou art worthy, O Lord, to receive the glory and honor and power: for thou has created all things, and for thy pleasure they are and were created. In this scripture we see that God created everything for His pleasure. Is God taking pleasure in you? If you can honestly say yes to question, then you are on the right track! So many times we take pleasure in pleasing other people, instead of God. Are you a people pleaser, or do you desire to please God?
As a single Christian Woman, I can truly identify with the desire to be married. I recently attended a Singles Conference at Word of Faith International Christian Center in Southfield, Mi where I am a member. I was truly blessed by the ministry gift of Dr. Miles Monroe. He ministered on the value of being single and the importance of falling in love with you. First. He defined single as meaning separate, unique and whole. Separate means to be apart, detached and different. Unique means to be original, distinctive and special. To be whole means to be complete, unified, one with self. Mastering these select few takes faith and discipline.
As single women, we need to rock our own world before we can rock another’s. IF not, then what good can we bring to another person. It is not our place to be a burden to our future mate, but rather a compliment to him. A couple should include two whole persons coming together to share life. And most importantly, to honor God. That is God’s design for marriage. Marriage is a ministry unto God.
Christian Girl has been one of the avenues I have chosen to use the gifts and talents that God has given me. Through Christian Girl Magazine, I am spending my time doing what I like to do. I have a mission. I have a goal. I am fulfilling Gods purpose for my life and so can you. We all have a divine purpose, and finding it will assist in the process of becoming a whole person. I often looked to men to make me feel complete. Relationships were very important to me. I was never without a “boyfriend.” I was always linked to someone. When I decided to live for God, and not run from one relationship to the next, it was very uncomfortable for me. I struggled being alone. However, when I got a hold of the word of God, things began to change for me. I began to value my worth as a woman, and a child of God. I began to take tiny steps to freedom.
Finally, realize, that when we don’t need to be in a relationship, is when the right one will come along. Take your time, and seek God first.
Written by Kirsten Williams
I am led to share this Confession with you to speak over yourself during this time of being single. Sometimes the flesh will try and dominate you, and cause you to feel that you cannot win. However, the truth in God’s word says that you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. This confession was taken from the book Scripture Keys for Kingdom Living by June Newman Davis. I encourage every Christian to buy this book as prominent tool for warfare! I pray this blesses you.
